after years of writing about sex, relationships and parenting for Romper, they've retired all freelancers. so I'm gonna resuscitate my column here. (with your help!)
Rebecca, I'm in and have upgraded. I feel many publications want "bold" stories of motherhood, but people get nervous if the woman who chaperones field trips has "Fleabag" tendencies.
I got some expected criticism after my HuffPost article about my ENM life and sexuality was published earlier this year, but the only one that irked me was: "I feel so sorry for your children." 🙄
As "that" mom who writes about embracing sensuality and releasing inhibitions, I'm desperate for community and excited for this. Thanks!
HI! Welcome! And THANK YOU! I have so much to say about the "I feel sorry for your children" SHAME DISGUISED AS CARE crowd. In fact, perhaps that should be our first zoom meet-up topic of discush!? Excited for this new community element and honored to have your voice in the mix! "That" mom is my favorite kind. <3 And please drop the link to your HuffPo piece, too! Would love to read it!
That comment was from some random who texted me. (Thanks, internet!) I got over 100 comments on the HP article but over 2k when Yahoo picked it up. (I was smart and read zero of them. My friends reported some of the disgusting ones.)
SMART. Big ups to your friends and THANK YOU FOR WRITING ABOUT THIS. I so appreciated your perspective! (The age difference conversation is one I am also excited to explore. I know more women 40+ dating men/women 30- than I do women dating their own age and there is SO MUCH TO BE MINED from conversations about power dynamics.)
Goddamnit woman, I love you. I have a parasocial relationship with you. 😂 Anyway, in all seriousness, I can’t tell you enough how much I appreciate your honest, raw writing. How every time I read it, I’m filled with ME TOO and THANK YOU…you validate all of the things in me I struggle to validate for myself. I truly believe you are a pioneeress of truth. Thank you. 🙏🏽
I love everything about this. Single mom for 2.5 years and never felt more proud of myself or empowered. Looking forward to joining in the conversation!
Here’s another possible topic… I’m out here FINALLY wanting and having great sex (in a situationship at the moment) and dealing with a teen who’s having a small crisis dealing with my energy shift because she’s never witnessed me like this.
I KNOW that I’m doing some truly excellent parenting by modeling that I deserve pleasure (just like men, it’s my good damn birthright too!) but it’s also rocky. While I’m not feeling any guilt I do have compassion for her perceived loss. I would love to dig in with a safe community so I will be staying tuned and paying my dues ❤️
YES! This is a great topic! Also I’m curious if she’s your only bc I DEF think there’s a difference when parenting a single kid and a grip of them when it comes to dating. Specifically where an energy shift is concerned! (This is a great topic and would also be really great to chat about as a group over zoom!)
She’s my youngest. My 20yo is off at college. Youngest had to really live through the muck of finding a new normal post divorce, me coming out, and now me acting like a blissed out pleasure seeking 20yo - ha!
Rebecca, I'm in and have upgraded. I feel many publications want "bold" stories of motherhood, but people get nervous if the woman who chaperones field trips has "Fleabag" tendencies.
I got some expected criticism after my HuffPost article about my ENM life and sexuality was published earlier this year, but the only one that irked me was: "I feel so sorry for your children." 🙄
As "that" mom who writes about embracing sensuality and releasing inhibitions, I'm desperate for community and excited for this. Thanks!
HI! Welcome! And THANK YOU! I have so much to say about the "I feel sorry for your children" SHAME DISGUISED AS CARE crowd. In fact, perhaps that should be our first zoom meet-up topic of discush!? Excited for this new community element and honored to have your voice in the mix! "That" mom is my favorite kind. <3 And please drop the link to your HuffPo piece, too! Would love to read it!
That comment was from some random who texted me. (Thanks, internet!) I got over 100 comments on the HP article but over 2k when Yahoo picked it up. (I was smart and read zero of them. My friends reported some of the disgusting ones.)
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/open-marriage-20-year-old-model_n_65a45bb4e4b07bd6950d3af6
SMART. Big ups to your friends and THANK YOU FOR WRITING ABOUT THIS. I so appreciated your perspective! (The age difference conversation is one I am also excited to explore. I know more women 40+ dating men/women 30- than I do women dating their own age and there is SO MUCH TO BE MINED from conversations about power dynamics.)
Goddamnit woman, I love you. I have a parasocial relationship with you. 😂 Anyway, in all seriousness, I can’t tell you enough how much I appreciate your honest, raw writing. How every time I read it, I’m filled with ME TOO and THANK YOU…you validate all of the things in me I struggle to validate for myself. I truly believe you are a pioneeress of truth. Thank you. 🙏🏽
THANK YOU for this. So appreciate you being here! ❤️🔥🙏
I love everything about this. Single mom for 2.5 years and never felt more proud of myself or empowered. Looking forward to joining in the conversation!
Love to see it! Thank you for being here! ❤️🔥
Seconding Adeana 👆 ❤️❤️❤️
Here’s another possible topic… I’m out here FINALLY wanting and having great sex (in a situationship at the moment) and dealing with a teen who’s having a small crisis dealing with my energy shift because she’s never witnessed me like this.
I KNOW that I’m doing some truly excellent parenting by modeling that I deserve pleasure (just like men, it’s my good damn birthright too!) but it’s also rocky. While I’m not feeling any guilt I do have compassion for her perceived loss. I would love to dig in with a safe community so I will be staying tuned and paying my dues ❤️
YES! This is a great topic! Also I’m curious if she’s your only bc I DEF think there’s a difference when parenting a single kid and a grip of them when it comes to dating. Specifically where an energy shift is concerned! (This is a great topic and would also be really great to chat about as a group over zoom!)
Oooh I’m excited to discuss!
She’s my youngest. My 20yo is off at college. Youngest had to really live through the muck of finding a new normal post divorce, me coming out, and now me acting like a blissed out pleasure seeking 20yo - ha!