it's okay to admit that size matters. because for many women ... it ... does

in order to prioritize our pleasure, women need to stop coddling the male ego, politicizing "dick pills" and admit to ourselves AND the people we're sleeping with what turns us on.

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If you’ve dated men, chances are you’ve dated “ass guy” or maybe even “breast guy.” Or dude who only fucks with blondes. Or women in their 20s. Or or or or or…

I don’t think there is ANYTHING wrong with any of these guys, by the way. On the contrary. Nothing but respect for a man who knows what he wants.

If you’re super into tits or ass and that is something you need in your life in order to feel alive or, rather, less close-to-death, I back that shit wholeheartedly. BECAUSE WE ONLY HAVE ONE WILD AND PRECIOUS LIFE and WHY JUDGE ANY MAN HIS PREFERENCE.

I will not placate those who weaponize other people’s desire, specifically those who do so in order to feel more desirable themselves. Much of physical attraction is, indeed, shallow, with women bearing the brunt of the “unattainable physical ideals.”

But understanding, advocating and feeling empowered by one’s own desire often means leaning into the parts of ourselves that WANT, and, yes, even NEED certain things from bodies. Especially bodies we want inside our own.